Thanks Dave!
I went with Taco springs specifically because they are soft; my trailer is around 1000 lbs with around 1000 lbs of load capacity, probably quite a bit lighter unloaded than the tail on a 4 door tacoma, but around what I think the regular cab SR would weigh (hence why I used this set).
The regular cab SR springs are 2 leafs with an overload that look to be the lightest ones on the market (from Tacoma World discussions), so I'm wondering if just getting the third leaf in there would help with when the trailer is lightly loaded and at higher speeds.
I am using compression shackles on them, seeing that they use a tension system is something I did not factor in. Overall, I'd say it is performing very closely to how my initial calculation suggested it would, but if I could find a spring with even an extra 50lbs of dampening in the initial 10% of the compression cycle it would be a really nice improvement in handling. On washboard it is a dream to tow - it just floats along. A bigger hit causes more compression and I'd like to control rebound a little more.
I just ordered a set of older VW Bug shocks which I am going to weld in hangers in for.
At the end of the day its a trailer, so I'm just trying to get JUST a bit stiffer Tacoma spring and the stock springs are so cheap to buy and test out that I may grab a set of TSB springs and give them a shot. I had the TSB done on my 2013 Tacoma and it definitely tightened things up a bit - thanks for pointing that out, it might be just what's needed.
Apologies as this response isn't very well organized, just paint on the wall for the moment.